Easing Back-to-School Anxiety: Tools for Kids and Parents
The Back-to-School Transition is Emotional
The first few weeks of school can stir up all sorts of emotions for kids and parents alike. Excitement, nerves, and even dread can mix together. While some children thrive with the return of structure, others struggle with separation anxiety, new classrooms, or the pressure of keeping up with schoolwork. Parents feel it too—juggling schedules, worrying about how their child is coping, and often carrying their own stress about work or family life.
Recognize and Validate Feelings
One of the most powerful things you can do is simply name and validate what your child is experiencing. Instead of “Don’t worry—you’ll be fine,” try: “I can see you’re feeling nervous about meeting your teacher. That makes sense. New things can feel scary.” When kids feel heard, they’re more likely to calm down and lean into the challenge.
Set Predictable Routines
Children thrive on predictability. Establishing consistent morning and evening routines can help lower anxiety. For example, prepare school clothes and lunches the night before, and create a calming bedtime ritual that allows space for conversation. Parents often find that these small steps also reduce their own stress.
Model Calm and Connection
Kids watch how their parents handle stress. Taking a deep breath, choosing patience, or admitting when you’re overwhelmed models resilience. A simple nightly check-in—“What was one good thing and one hard thing today?”—can open doors for ongoing connection.
When Extra Support is Needed
Sometimes anxiety goes beyond the typical nerves of a new school year. If your child struggles with frequent headaches, stomachaches, or extreme reluctance to attend school, counseling may help. At PFHC, our team of therapists provides gentle, evidence-based strategies to help children and families build confidence and resilience.
If your family needs support in navigating this school year with less stress and more connection, reach out to us at Portage Family Healing Center. We’re here to walk with you.